Having a lonely Mother’s Day?
If you are like me, you may not be able to see your kids this Sunday. All three of mine live out of town—too far for a day drive. And my dear mom has been gone more than ten years. So I’m on my own.
Fortunately, I have a great husband who agreed to do what ever I wanted to do.
Hmmm. It’s not often that we mothers think about what we’d like to do. We are usually asking what everyone else wants.
When my kids were little, I could go unnoticed for days. I contemplated writing a book Don’t Mind Me, I Came with The House because, literally, as long as there was clean underwear in their drawers and food on the table, they had no idea mom existed.
Now they are grown—busy with their lives in Philadelphia, Baltimore and Raleigh—and while I’m sad they are gone, I am also extremely proud. After all, if I’ve raised three strong, successful kids who were brave enough to uproot themselves and find jobs in other cities, then I must have done something right. And the last thing I want to do is lay a guilt trip on them by sitting around on Mother’s Day woe-is-me-ing myself.
So I decided to celebrate the day. It took me awhile to decide what I really wanted to do but after much thought, I decided on a long hike somewhere beautiful. So Jeff and are off to Kinzua Dam late Sunday morning with other friends who also have children living out of town.
But first, I will run a Mother’s Day 5k in memory of my mom and my mother-in-law. It is something I do to remember two great ladies. I write their names on cards, pin them to my back and let their memory follow along with me. It has become tradition .
My mom was my best friend, and I still miss her everyday. I think she’d like this little show of emotion. The last 5k my mother walked was with her daughter, daughter-in-law and four granddaughters. She crossed the finish line proudly with granddaughter Jessie Zahner.
If you are lucky enough to have your mom still with you, call and tell her how much you love her. That’s what she really wants. She knows you are busy building your own life. It was her job to help you find your independence. She’s part of the reason you are who you are!
And if she is gone, find your own way to remember her and then get out there and do something for YOURSELF! That’s what she would want for you.
Be proud of yourself, your mom and your independent daughters. We women are the nurturers, the kingdom-builders, the middle-of-the-pack scramblers who pick people up, brush them off and send them on their way.
If you are lucky enough to have your children at home, enjoy every minute they can spare with you, but if not, get out there and find something you’d love to do that will make them say “Yep…that’s my mom!”
Happy Mother’s day to all!!!!!!!
Love on, Moms, love on!